I am aware that I did not share the details of the interview with 20/20 this week in my previous post about the show. I wasn't purposely keeping anything from you, in fact I wished I had documented the process as it happened, but I only had a phone and it happened so. very. fast.
I fell asleep last night before catching all of last night’s episode of Intervention, however, I saw about three minutes in the middle and said: “This woman is a WLS’er.”
I have a sixth sense about other post ops. It’s bizarre.
I did not know, in fact, until I just got a Google Alert for this episode in my email from Google due to the words “gastric bypass.”
I am telling you alcoholism post WLS is RAMPANT. And, hidden.
You can have as many chicken – egg conversations about it –
What Caused “Us” To Gain Weight?
Is It The Same Problem That Causes Us To Drink – Drug – Party – Etc. LATER?
Often, yes. Directly related.
It’s not always about liking food too much.
Mr. MM looked at me and said, “You know, I’m lucky that isn’t me.”
And he’s right. If he did not EAT – even now at eight years post op food is his drug – he’d drink. It’s in him to be addicted to something. Anything.
And that is a VERY FRIGHTENING REALIZATION that is VERY REAL. This stuff often isn’t realized until YEARS post op. It’s true — he had no idea why he ate too much. We’re only just scratching the surface now — in 2012.
TV Replay –
A&E saved one of the most heartbreaking stories yet for the season finale of “Intervention” (Mon, 10 p.m. ET on A&E). Terry’s descent into alcoholism was easy to understand as her story unfolded. She was pressured to be beautiful by her mother. She even went into modeling, but gave it up after her mother and the agency suggested diet pills.
So Terry turned to food, gaining a tremendous amount of weight, before gastric bypass surgery and ultimately alcoholism took over. Even during the taping of this show, her mother said, “I think appearances do make the person.” She also refused to believe her daughter about an earlier molestation from a family friend.
So starting from a young age, Terry felt like she was never quite good enough for her mother. In a society that puts an undue burden on women in regards to appearance and beauty, Terry’s burden was even heavier because it was her mother telling her she wasn’t good enough the way she is. By the end of the episode, though, her mother had apologized and Terry had found sobriety, so there may yet be a happy ending to her story.
A gorgeous 40 year old mother of two, who happens to to be about seven to eight years post gastric bypass postop. She also, happens to have a little big problem in her smaller body.
"Julie often turned to food and alcohol to find comfort in tough times. She had gastric bypass surgery when her weight ballooned, but now she spends her son's child support money."
On alcohol, a lot of alcohol. You see…
First thing you must note, Julie started drinking at six months post surgery.
This is extraordinarily dangerous. Your surgeon told you to be careful for a reason.
Alcohol + early gastric bypass = possible brain damage and Wernicke's encephalopathy. Wernicke's can occur even without the aid of drinking heavily, do not help it along.
Gastric bypass triggers impaired vitamin intake in the best of situations, and pairing this with alcohol abuse can increase the risks of things like thiamine or Vitamin B1 deficiency. Typical people have a hard enough time metabolizing, removing nutrient intake and adding alcohol is a very bad idea. Don't do it. Don't take advice from internet peoples, but don't do it.
Also note that alcohol really messes you UP post op –
If you aren't one of the gastric-ally enhanced like your super enhanced *sarcasm* blogger here, let me explain something to you:
Diet coke and rum, and I'm on stage.
A few sips of a martini and I'm holding walls.
I'm pregnant in one half-glass of wine.
Alcohol is a different beast with a short gut. Your mileage may and should and will vary, but for most of us, alcohol hits our systems FAST, HARD and feels like it leaves just as quick, even if it doesn't – – which can lead "us" to drink more.
It can be a sick cycle, and the longer I live with my own super enhanced system, the more I realize how much it's all quite interconnected. (Hello, carbohydrates, let's get shitfaced!) I'm not an expert in any way, I just live with it, watch others deal — and read about it daily. (And, damn it if my opinions aren't changing.)
I'm not really blogging about Julie here, you see. I feel like I/we can't judge. Because, you know what, she is any one of us. It would not take much to jump on that slip and slide of transfer addictionfor any of us, and who are we to judge that? (As I sat with my heavily buttered toast and ATE FOOD during this episode, right?)
Transfer addiction can hit ANY OF US if we aren't dealing with our triggers…
…To over eat, drink, compulsively shop, gamble, ludicrous hobbies that suck up ALL time and money, taking off to do stupid shit, (Yes, I Am Talking About You, CUT IT OUT, what you're doing is totally destructive though you don't see it, and you probably won't see this anyway…) overusing the internet *coughIknow,* obsessions, sex addictions, etc…so forth, so on and yadda yadda yadda, this list, really has NO END… And, we all know someone who has a problem. And, yeah.
My Name Is Beth And I Am Addicted To Caffeine, Simple Carbohydrates And Online Gratification Via Instant Results Via ADHD Brain With A Side Order of Seizure Disorder.
Also: who's to say what addictions and compulsions are truly destructive vs. not? I mean? Sure, I use the net too much, but… what if I was knitting so much that my house was full of yarn? <g> There are things to consider here. Also: addicts will rationalize everything to make their addictions seem okay for THEM. *beam* Am I NOT right?Any of us who ever used food to deal with emotional reasons or anxiety is at risk to transfer to something else, or continually cycle back to heavily buttered carbs. We substitute WHAT-EVER we can to get the same effect in our BRAINS. It's just a cycle of fail until we can fix what's broken to begin with! If you have ever said, "As soon as I lose the weight, things will be better -" that's a sign that they won't. Start working on it yesterday.
Also – I must mention it. I notice the chatter – "OMG HOW MUCH WEIGHTED DID SHE GAINED?!"
The woman was on Intervention because she's drinking herself to death. Her weight regain is of zero importance. Priorities: #1 – Live. #2 – Stay Alive.
At the close of Intervention last night, we were told that Julie is attending AA and was sober as of September. I wish her the very, very best.
Are you out there, Julie?
PS. The realization that the individuals on these shows WATCH themselves on TV and how does THAT feel? *thud*
I suppose many of us are nodding already. OF COURSE IT DOES. I know what happens to me as soon as I delve into creamy fatty goodness or high-carb deliciousness. Brain – trigger – eat – more please. However with the Extra Benefit of a Gastric Bypass — I can stop eating. KTHANXRNYPOUCH.
But, does poor eating or overeating cause inflammation in my BRAINS? (Do not answer that.) But I want to know? Did years of overeating and reaching a body weight of 320 pounds screw up my brain?
New (scary) research suggests that the brain is altered by obesity and changes the part of the brain that regulates appetite control and body weight. Perhaps why diets don't work? (For most of us?)
grat·i·tude – [grat-i-tood, -tyood] noun the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful
Grateful people are suggested to have happier — less stressed out — less depressed overall — and more satisfied lives. If you are grateful it's said that you gain self-acceptance, purpose, direction and know your goals in life. People who are consistently grateful learn how to cope better with every day realities — and spend less time brooding and being miserable.
Perhaps being more grateful would help a person cope with every day problems without resorting to denial or the attempt to cover up problems with addictive behaviors: alcohol, drugs, and yes, I'll say it — food. "I numbed my pain at the expense of my liver." Miranda Lambert, who also says… "Hide your crazy and start acting like a lady…" in the song "Break Mama's Heart."
If you can't be happy, how can you be grateful; if you can't be grateful, how can you be happy?