It's a funny thing when you post your lowest-to-date weight, instant comments happen. I suppose I should expect it. I watch the comments scroll on other people's blogs, pages, etc and I try to ignore them but I do wonder what the guidelines or cut offs are for making judgements on a person's shape/size.
- "Now don't you go wasting away on us!" (I am a nine year and two month bariatric surgery post op, I think I have this whole cyclic regain pattern pretty much DOWN to a science.)
- "Gosh, I hope you are not going anorexic over there!" (Wait, what?! No, really, WHAT?)
- "I NEED TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU EAT EVERY SINGLE DAY."
- "What do you eat? 600-800 calories? Show me."
- "OMGoodness aren't you just a little thing!"
- "I hope you calculated your excess skin in there!" (Um. It's about 5-7 lbs. If I take Skilsaw to my arms, belly and thighs, I will be in exactly the top range of normal body weight. I'd probably become Super Anemia Girl too.)
I don't think it matters which direction you go – there is a comment somewhere.
And it just proves that we are SO INDIVIDUAL. You cannot judge your path against someone else. Please don't try.
*cue Britney Bitch*
Why do other people feel compelled to immediately (No, seriously, THE SECOND YOU TAKE A BIG SHIT AND POST YOUR WEIGHT LOSS…) judge themselves against you?
Oh my goodness, aren't you a crass little creature! *unsubscribe*
I have never (in my life) seen 145 lbs. I am a short woman, which makes 145 lbs "overweight." May I own it for five seconds before I sabotage it?
Please do not make body comments about anyone. Ever. You have NO idea what kind of lasting impression it has on them. I am stronger than most.
“The process is the goal.”
― Geneen Roth
You are in the unfortunate position if being followed by virtual strangers who with the distance of the web feel they can comment freely. That sucks. I have had people in real life say things like “don’t lose anymore weight” or “you are wasting away” (I am the same size as you almost exactly). It is odd constantly feeling on the defensive for your weight pre and post-op. Thanks for this post.
You go girl. Everybody else STFU 🙂
Everyone that tells you anything other then “Rock on” or something similar can go to hell. At 5 feet and 3.5 inches – my surgeon told me 120-130 was my goal and there is no way I would be healthy or look/feel good at that weight. I’m just fine and dandy at 150 because of my build/muscles. I once hit 140 and had everyone and their mother asking me if I was ok, had I seen a doctor lately, and am I hungry, etc etc. It pretty much stopped when I started replaying with – yes I am ok, doc says I am fine, and no I’m not hungry, everyone keeps giving me $hit and I don’t have enough time to eat all of it – TYVM!
And while I don’t know you, only through your blog and BBGC on FB – I totally think you should do a voice over for the Britney Bitch and use your name instead.
Well said, Beth!!!!